Loving Communication Skills
Communicate: share or exchange information, news or ideas
Sound a bit dry? How about the root word:
Commune: to converse or talk together, usually with profound intensity, intimacy, etc.; interchange thoughts or feelings. 2. to be in intimate communication or rapport…Or…To be in a state of intimate, heightened sensitivity and receptivity, as with one’s surroundings.
Communication is how we connect with others and the world around us. It is how we express and share who we are. It is one of life’s greatest pleasures, and a deep human need, to commune in this way. It is also, at times, a minefield of misunderstanding, frustration and hurt. Poor communication is one of the most often cited reasons for relationship breakdown.
As alluded to above, communication can be a simple and mundane sharing of information, this is necessary and important. However it is usually much more than that. An estimated 80% of communication is non-verbal. Your body language, tone of voice, facial expression, hand gestures, eye movements, breathing patterns, and even the degree of congruence between these, as well as many other factors, are all part of your communication.
And this is only part of the equation, the one you are communicating with has their own way of receiving and subconsciously interpreting this information based on their own personal history, early imprinting, family life, culture, belief systems and so on. It can be a very tricky business.
Because communication is such an enormous topic and so vital to harmonious relationships, this course explores it in detail. We look at the intent behind communication and how simple changes in our choice of words take us from accusation and alienation to connection. Some conversations are very difficult to have.
It is interesting that as we become more invested in a relationship, the more we feel we have to lose, the less authentic we can become. Suddenly it is scary to let our partner see all of who we are, especially the parts we don’t accept ourselves. We can start to hide or become slightly less honest about things. This is a real killer for the vital spark of aliveness between two people.
You will find out about the reptilian brain and how it registers and magnifies threat, thereby making access to our more advanced human qualities of empathy, receptivity and flexibility, all vital to harmonious co-existence, almost impossible. You will learn techniques to spot and soothe the reptilian brain in action.
We also explore how to make win-win agreements, how to have a fair fight, and how communicate about sex.
So we look at how to keep revealing who we truly are and how to have those difficult conversations.
These forms of communication that have nothing to do with words are occurring constantly. They have the power to enliven and uplift our relationships or to undermine them despite our best efforts and intentions.